Action Stations 2 – dream advice

Back to Barbara Sher‘s philosophy (think I will forget Picasso. I have digressed too far).



So, if we figure out what we were put on this planet to do, what we would feel unfulfilled in life on some level if we didn’t do. Would we rush to do it?

Hell no, probably not! Our resistance rises up and stops us. It would make us anxious doing that thing we want to do, so some part of our brain says don’t do it, be safe, stay here on the sofa and eat and watch TV instead. And I do!

Do you have anything inside you, which you often ponder on and even sometimes declare you will do, but don’t even get started? For me I would like to write a book (fact or fiction) on relationships and love, or paint paintings, or create videos or an online magazine, or be the next Oprah or be a career/life coach and help people like Barbara does, or be the person that escorts VIPs onto their private jets and yachts, making brilliant conversation in 4 languages (when I’ve fully mastered them) and making them laugh along the way (most odd I know, why am I sharing my weirdest secrets here?), or write hit songs in the style of Christina Aguilera for my singing daughter Katrina Capell, or in the style of Adele for my singing daughter Lucia Capell, or be a public speaker on some subject or other (yup, got over my fear of public speaking luckily) or, or, or….. Do you see my problem? A true Scanner (jack of all trades, interested in far too many things to settle on just one).

But less about me. Have you ever brainstormed like that? Perhaps if you did it every day for a week and exercised that muscle, you might find further dreams hidden in the recesses of your wishing brain. And just maybe if you found/created a large enough group of people, they could help you achieve one of your dreams and remind you to keep going until you got there even if you had to back off for a couple of months in the middle of your journey and be mentors to each other.

And who knows how you’d feel if you achieved a dream? You might hate it. Am I afraid of success? You bet. Why would anyone pay me large sums of money to do anything which I find easy and surely anyone else could do? I would feel almost guilty. Well I plan to overcome all of that and just bloody do it! Forgive my potty mouth. It seems appropriate.  If it brings in money which I can accept, great.  If not, at least I will feel fulfilled.

Wow this was a bit open, even for me. If you don’t laugh at some of my dreams, above, I won’t laugh at yours. Apparently you should never share them with friends and family, only to strangers and preferably strangers who have already praised you and you feel comfortable sharing with. So I hereby say that you are all awesome people for being bloggers, being open enough and motivated enough to want to give you time free of charge to other bloggers by sharing your wisdom and thought with us. You are all even more wonderful for reading my blog at all and reading this far today.

Do you dare to reveal any dreams here in the comments? They don’t have to be something necessarily achievable, in case you hadn’t noticed :)!


Great Minds think Alone

Great minds think alone

What an excellent twist to ‘Great Minds think Alike’. Only our egos quote the alike one when we want to pat ourselves on the back and form connections with other people so that we don’t feel so alone. So this is kind of the opposite!

How much time do bloggers spend alone? I assume it’s a lot, seeing as we are artists. I LOVE MY ALONE TIME. I had to shout it in capitals, sorry. I bet you love being alone too. Ever tried blogging with someone there talking to you? Impossible.

Being alone with your thoughts is nourishing. Personality tests describe me as an extreme extrovert. Nothing introverted about me. Anything to get attention!! But I need a good deal of time to potter. It’s my favourite thing. Absolute freedom to do what I feel like, when I feel like it – either hopping from thing to thing or deep in thought on one thing for hours.

Do you start to come unhinged if you don’t get alone time now and then? On a similar tack, I once read how important it is to also get a dose of nature regularly – be it fields, water, trees. Best to surround yourself completely if you can. And how many other people will you find in that nature? Not so many usually. The city on the other hand attracts people, coats them in concrete and other hard surfaces and gobbles them up. Dare I say it also spits them out? They head to parks and beaches and out into the country from time to time but they may not realise why; that their soul needs it. I’ve been there.

So how calming is it to get into nature and be alone? How long would you want with nothing interesting to occupy your mind? A minute, an hour, a day? A month in a cave watching spiders?

All Alone

I find this photo very calming. Not only do I love the colour of the water but imagine looking up and seeing those snow covered rocky mountains. It shows us how unimportant we really are in the grand scheme of things; how our troubles are nothing but unhappiness derived from the ego.

I hope we can all get a dose of this over the holiday season. Stillness in the frenzy, calm in the eye of the storm; even if we have to stay up late and watch the stars alone to do it. That’s when the magic of Christmas comes flooding in for me.

Healthy to spend time alone