Do you believe yourself?

Believe yourself

Believe yourself

This isn’t a typing error. There should be no ‘in’ after believe in that sentence. We surely all believe in ourselves to some extent but do we believe ourselves and why does it matter? 

When I was a kid my siblings liked to stir me up by pretending they didn’t believe me when I told them something. I would get all upset about it and promise and swear on my Tiny Tears, in all earnestness that it was true.

It’s all too easy unfortunately to be mean to a child as they take things so seriously and believe in justice, right or wrong, black and white. It takes a while for them to realise that others sometimes like to be mean for the fun of it. It still eludes me today and I don’t enjoy practical jokes that can cause even a nanosecond’s discomfort to someone else.  Perhaps it’s because they have the tools to deal with that kind of thing, they assume everyone else does and that it won’t do any harm. Go pick on someone your own size!

Anyway it’s taken me a lifetime to realise that it doesn’t matter if others believe you as long as you believe yourself. If they say that red is green and you are an honest person yourself, not understanding why someone would lie, you might start to question yourself and look for proof that red is in fact green. What a waste of energy, better spent questioning why someone else would lie or try to stir you up. Better yet, accept that people are different, their journey is theirs and let it go. It doesn’t have to be part of yours. What they believe or what they tell you they believe is their business. Nothing to do with you. Have faith to believe what you believe until such time as you no longer do.  No one can take your beliefs away unless you let them.

This blog is for all the sensitive people out there on a journey to lose that sensitivity, see the rest of the world for what it is and accept that people do things which are incomprehensible to you. All we can do is get out of their way, not try to control or even change anyone else and work on our own filters, our own minds and our own stories. Most of all we need to believe ourselves. A lifetime of genes, experiences and decisions has brought us to where each of us is now, doing our best with what we have.  Further observation of life will take us onward, hopefully to a place of peace and understanding. All we ultimately have is our thoughts. Guard and protect them well.

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2 thoughts on “Do you believe yourself?

  1. I think Buddha is right Emma, that our worst enemy really is ourselves. There isn’t anyone out there that can say anything to hurt us. If we are hurt, then its because we believe that what they are saying is somehow true. And the more we defend, the more truth there is in what they are saying, because we’re actually shielding ourselves from that unpleasant reality. Maybe that’s where the exploration needs to take place…..WHY we believe its true. If we are honest, and look closely, we will see that their remarks are our own inner beliefs and only we can do the work to see them as the UNtruth that they are. Pain lets us know something’s wrong, and other people bring us pain so we can know where to look. Life is beautiful when you look at it that way. We don’t need defenses, only the courage to really explore.

  2. Conversely, I find the person easiest to lie to is myself. To that end I try to not tell myself anything and instead live my life with an attitude of simple exploration and honest reaction to what is before me. See? I’m such a liar!

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